if i thought you were listening, i'd never say a word

There needs to be a name for a piece of advice, given as part of a programme, that almost everyone would not be able to follow, and so, when...

"Emotional Sobriety" sounds fairly deep or scary or spiritual or all of those. If physical sobriety is not letting booze mess with...

There is a very good video by Monday FA Monday called Men Have Preferences but not Standards . Approach this with care, because it could tri...

When I first got sober, the task itself was a challenge and a source of excitement and discovery. After a good few years, when I had regular...

The feeling of loneliness is your soul’s way of telling you that you’re keeping the wrong company. Maybe they’re just too square, man, maybe...

I had a good hearty chuckle on the District Line into Hammersmith the other Saturday morning. Quite a sustained chuckle, in fact. Therapists...

For a (very) short while way back in the day I dated a girl who did heroin: I’d watched her chopping lines upstairs at a party. A week or so...

RooshV is a smart guy and playing a long game none of the rest of us get. He’s found his audience, and is cultivating them well. Some of it ...

The story isn’t about walking to Krasnoyarsk, a town I picked simply on the sound of its name and its remote location. If I had chosen Aberd...

Imagine you wake up somewhere you’ve never seen before. It’s cold and damp. There’s a lot of rain outside the window. The light is unfamilia...

Every now and then, someone points out that the AA co-founders were far from calm, balanced, morally sound people. Matt Forney just did so i...

I ran across this little rant... My grandma is dead and she went demented before we could have these deep spiritual conversations. She gre...

This series of posts has been an attempt to find a way of talking about people’s behaviour without falling into gender stereotypes: “women d...

“Know thyself” said Socrates, “and lift weights” adds every Manosphere guru. Confidence and self-knowledge are supposed to be attractive to ...

Over at The Rawness , they asked over several parts "What is maturity?" And all of them walked straight into the trap. They accept...

Now this is how you make a movie about sex addiction. A swift digression brought on by a little scene at the start of the movie: one big dif...

Okay, it's time to deal with the "intimacy" stuff.Because this is about the same place asthe feelings of loss and emptiness I ...

I was reading the official Big Book of ACoA recently, and as I always do when I go near that subject, had mixed feelings: loss, emptiness, r...

I've been going to a D.A. meeting in Chelsea for a year now, and I should probably look at my progress. DA is good for dealing with a nu...

So where are we, now that we're back where we started? I'm one of the people who lives for sensations and pleasures, and I was s...