Can you believe that until a couple of weeks ago I had never been to Highgate Cemetery? I'm pretty sure that back in the day the Kool Kids went there to get stoned appreciate the calm, spiritual atmosphere. I used to live about a mile or so from it, on the other side of Waterlow Park, for heaven's sake.
There are East and West Sides of the Cemetery. The East side is well-kept and mostly 20th-century, overwhelmingly of arty-types, scientists and the big statue of some bloke with a beard, but much more importantly, this guy...
The West Side is mostly pre-WW2, with some modern exceptions, one of whom is Alexander Litvenenko. It's a very different experience. Those sepulchres and tombs...
The tombs, the massive headstones and statues. Family gravestones with parents who lived to be 60+, one child who died at 25, and two who died before they were 5. Mostly solid, middle-class merchants, judging by the size of their statues and tombs. And all were clearly designed to be visited. Like this site
I didn't think people did that anymore. Visiting and maintaining graves feels like something out of an earlier age. Our family cremates. All of the fumerals I've been to have been cremations. But some still want to remember and visit the dead.
I was messing about with the new camera and took some photographs from the train. Why I do this I have no idea. Sis gets good photos from trains and buses, but I get nothing.
"Emotional Sobriety" sounds fairly deep or scary or spiritual or all of those. If physical sobriety is not letting booze mess with the way we feel and how we act, then emotional sobriety is not letting people, places and things mess with the way we feel.
Notice the verb is "mess with".
We still mourn when someone dear to us dies. We are still delighted by the happy laughter of our children (if we have them) and we are still concerned when the teenage daughter is late home. We are pleased when a friend does well, and when we do, but modest in our celebration of it. We are angry if someone steps over our boundaries or we do not get the recognition we deserve for the work we have done.
We still feel the emotions that regular people feel.
What we don't do is respond to the drama queen. We don't fall for the manipulations of users and abusers, and we don't spend time feeling bad with the losers. We don't jump in to rescue people who dived into the lake of their own free will. The second time someone gets wilfully drunk and hurts themselves, and it's clear this is a pattern, we call a taxi to take them to hospital and ask them if they have the fare. We don't act out when someone tugs at our co-dependent heart strings. We try to stay calm when the boss punches our buttons or someone at work lets us down and makes us look bad. We don't make events about our reaction to them, we understand that almost nothing is 'about us'.
Staying away from wet places, and from heavy drinkers, is one way of reducing the need to manage our physical sobriety. Reduce the temptations.
The same applies to emotional sobriety. Stay away from the crazies, the emotionally needy, the users, losers and abusers, the emotionally volatile, the people who use their feelings to manipulate those around them. Do not become one of the consequences of people who made bad life choices.
I know what you're thinking.
If you're an ex-drunk, that's a lot of people. And nearly all the ones who turn us on.
It is. I'm not going to pretend there aren't days when life seems a little dull.
It's why a lot of people don't go for emotional sobriety. They still want some physical attraction, and they know that drama goes with that.
If the sex is worth the drama, go ahead. But you're just being dumb if the drama isn't worth the sex.
Which sounds a lot like MGTOW (or WGTOW).
Because it's the same principle. If it doesn't work for you, stop doing it, and do something that does.
I bought myself a Fujifilm X-E4 just before Christmas. I asked the nice people in the Fuji shop in Covent Garden for their smallest, lightest, cheapest, easiest-to-use camera with a 50mm-equivalent lens. They conferred for a moment and then suggested the X-E4 with the 35mm lens, which is 50mm-equivalent for the APS-C sensor. I tried it, and it felt and looked right, so I gave them all my money. Since then, I've been getting used to it, learning about the features, and how to set it up simply to take the kind of pictures I take. As I get familiar with it, I will no doubt use more of the features.
The X-E4 twice the price in real terms of the Olympus OM10 that was my first proper camera back in *cough* *splutter*. It takes fabulous pictures. There's none of the wonky geometry at the edges of the frame like earlier APS-C cameras used to have. The amount of detail in the pictures is way over anything a standard film camera could provide. As for colour, it's Fujifilm. It's what any piece of tech should be: good enough so I can't blame it instead of me for poor results.
So I'm having to get my eye back in, and most importantly, having to learn to see big pictures rather than to pick out some details and zoom in with a telephoto. I've done that. It feels great for a while. I saw a YT photographer doing it a while ago, and realised I didn't want to do that anymore. It's a phase one goes through. Cropping is fine, zooming is for sports photographers.
The first dozen or so outings are probably not going to produce good photos, except by luck. It takes time. It's partly about learning to use a camera again, and partly about learning to see a scene, and then to take a photograph of it. Here's the first real outing.
Management gurus love to quote the mavericks on the need to think differently, go against the consensus, dodge the groupthink and otherwise swim against the mainstream. It takes bravery and moral courage to resist
The people who don't are, they imply, suffering from some kind of moral fault. They are unable to resist peer pressure. They have a fear of freedom. They are too willing to go-along-to-get-along. They just aren't smart enough. They are dreadful conformists.
Insults are not explanations, even if they do make the reader feel superior.
For one thing, follow the crowd at chow time
is a very effective rule-of-thumb. If it wasn't, the human race would not have survived. Nor would starlings or any of the herd animals.
For another thing, there is no correlation between dodging groupthink, and intelligence or occupation. A lot of the most cliched material I read about our customers and markets at work was produced by clever young people with good degrees from Russell Group universities. Consultancies pay good money to young people who are smart and energetic but don't make connections across different subjects or problems and who can focus.
What proportion of the population follow the crowd at chow time? This has always been a puzzle, but recently we had what I think is the definitive answer.
According to a study in 2020, 93% of the UK population (who expressed a preference) wanted or approved of the March 2020 lockdown(*). Call them the Convergents.
Not because they were brainwashed, lead on, hoodwinked, mislead, lied to, deceived, tricked or bamboozled into their opinion. Neither were they lazy, scared, conformist, or virtue-signalling. You're not allowed to be rude about or make excuses for 93% of the population. Half of the under-35's who approved had a degree. A quarter of everyone had a degree. All those people made that judgement in the belief it was well-informed and well-judged.
So what about the 7% who were right? The Divergents. They weren't smarter. They may not have even been as well-informed as some of the people (including most medical professionals) who got the answer wrong.
What they did have is a sixth sense for something not-being-quite-right about a situation, proposal, argument or bunch of alleged facts. Not all the time about everything, but often enough for it to be a common feature of their lives.
It's the pupil who senses that the teacher's explanation has crucial missing bits, and finding their own explanation. It's the instinct we all have in varying degrees about when someone is being insincere and when they aren't. It's a knowledge of red flags in other people's behaviour, or in press releases, or the statements of experts. It's knowing that people only appeal to `expert consensus' when the facts aren't on their side. It's having a mass of usually unsystematic background knowledge about one's society and economy, and about how different industries and markets work. It's having a sense of which anecdotes are data, and which are just anecdotes. It's knowing when absence of evidence is evidence of absence. It's being dissatisfied with the usual way of doing something and wanting to make it quicker, simpler, more accurate. It's wanting to fill in the missing pieces of knowledge, or questioning the received opinions based on flimsy research. It can have a hundred sources.
Faced with a boat with a small leak, the Convergents would treat leaks as a feature, take the boat and appoint a couple of people to bail out. The Divergents would point out that leaks are a bug, and look for a way to fix the leak.
Almost all daily activity is by clever, ingenious, hard-working people who apply what they were taught in school and in their professional courses, to keeping the ramshackle Behemoth of the economy rolling. Changing the way they do things is not in their job description: they are there to work what already exists. If any change is needed, it will be imported or imposed from outside. This applies to research in the sciences, mathematics, and engineering. It applies in the arts as well, especially when the world is having one of its recurrent moral panics.
Convergents live by if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Divergents point out that just because it ain't broke, don't mean that it's what you need, and figure out what we need.
Innovation, change, insight, originality happen in the fringes. Sometimes it becomes mainstream, other times it doesn't. Too much `disruption' and a society or an economy stops working well enough to be worth keeping. Too little and it is eroded by outside forces. Divergents need Convergents to keep it all running: Convergents need Divergents to stop it all decaying.
(*) I can't find out if that was on the basis that the lockdown would be for three weeks. Please leave me with the illusion that most people would have objected to an indefinite lockdown!
It's been nearly two years since I over-thought how I do backups. Technology changes, prices change, and use cases change: reviews are appropriate.
The cause was finding that one of my external hard drives (EHD) would disconnect and then re-connect from the laptop at random. Diskfix couldn't find any faults on the drive, so I have to blame the USB ports. Everyone thinks that the worst that can happen is dropping an EHD onto a hard surface. Also bad is having the EHD fall while still attached to the computer and so putting stress on the computer's USB port. Those things aren't welded to the card.
The only way to avoid plugging and unplugging an EHD is to use a NAS (either dedicated or a headless Raspberry Pi with EHD's plugged into it), or to use another computer with a more reliable USB port. Either way, we're still using EHDs of some quality or other.
Network-attached storage is the first thing one tends to think about. The original use-case for this was a) it was nerdier than using external drives, b) it was not a lot more expensive per MB than external drives, c) people used to download video files from e.g. iTunes before watching them. The nerds have now migrated to using Raspberry Pi's with EHDs attached, which are computers, not NAS. The cost of EHDs has dropped considerably, while the cost of NAS-related hardware and software has gone up. Finally, what is "downloading movies"? Because streaming.
I don't do daily backups. You should, because you are creating GBs of media every day. Or making irreplaceable music in your DAW, with a bank of plug-ins that cumulates to mucho dinero. If I get to that stage, I too will get a NAS and set up automated differential backup jobs. Because I'd be a pro, and that's what pros do. Most of what I do is writing, and I'm old enough to remember when a writer's nightmare was leaving his work-in-progress on the train. Our idea of backup was carbon paper.
Everything I write is in iCloud, which will do for the short-term, as long as I NEVER delete files. iCloud is really for making a file accessible from a number of devices and keeping them in sync: delete a file by mistake on your laptop, and it will vanish from iCloud.
My ripped music is currently on an external LaCie HDD. I made that decision because I only ever used it as a source to load tracks on my iPhone. Then it was switched off. I do have albums on it that I downloaded from Amazon expressly for train music, and sometimes I want to listen to that. I have the LaCie plugged into a ASUS netbook from 2010 or so. Music does not need high-spec as video does. So I would switch the Asus on, count to twenty and then fire up Music Streamer on my iPad to feed it to my amp through the USB port. Then I would have to remember to switch the Asus off before going to bed. Yes, I know, and I've set the Asus up to hibernate(*) at 22:00 and wake up again at 09:00. Its hard drive spins down even on mains power, but I'm not sure the LaCie does. External drive spin-down seems to be hit-and-miss on Win 7, and there's no provision in the LaCie driver. I looked. So that drive could be on for thirteen hours a day, and I think that disc is spinning all the time. It's warm enough. Not what we want.
So I should use an SSD for the music. No moving parts. No activity, less heat generation. I can buy an internal 1TB SSD drive for about £90 and an enclosure for about £10, which is cheaper than the non-sale price of a 1TB SSD on Amazon. For the added speed, reliability and lifetime, that feels worth it.
(When you get the SSD, you will need to initialise and format it with the Windows disk management facility. Format it as EXFAT as b****y Apple have only just added NTFS-reading with iOS 15. If you don't, you will get strange "access forbidden" errors, which will point you in the direction of permissions, and it has nothing to do with permissions.)
Then I can go back to using cheap HDDs from reputable brands (only because I assume they have better quality control in their Chinese factories than the Chinese brands do), and accept that after 3 - 5 years they will need replacing. A 1TB Seagate HDD is currently £38.
I am going to make sure that each of my laptops can communicate with EHDs connected to any other of my laptops. That way, if a laptop USB port goes squiffy, I can backup over Wi-Fi to another machine.
I adopted Free File Sync - to which I have donated - a while ago, and I'm still liking it.
(*) Hibernate, not shutdown. A computer can't wake from shutdown.
